Hiya Gorgeous!
The eleven tips you’re about to read have been life-changing for me. Some of them may seem simple, but I come back to these practices whenever I need to get grounded and remind myself that living with cancer can be healthy—it can even be vibrant, abundant and filled with beauty.
Whether or not you’re living with cancer like me, these tips are universal. I know you’re going to find something (or maybe a few things!) that resonates with you.
So, let’s dive in…
During my teens and twenties, I celebrated (or avoided) Valentine’s Day. Each year had its own flavor. Heartache, romantic plans gone awry and some very sweet moments, too. But, February 14, 2003 changed that day forever. That’s the day I was diagnosed with an incurable, stage IV cancer.
Life stopped… and then transformed.
Valentine’s Day is a very spiritual celebration now. I call it my “cancerversary,” a day of deep self-love, reflection, gratitude and re-birth. It took me over a decade, post-diagnosis, to get to that sacred place. But, I’m here now and if you’re newly diagnosed, trust that you will get there, too.
For many patients, cancer is no longer a death sentence.
Really take that in. The first doctor I spoke to suggested a triple organ transplant, the second gave me 10 years to live. Thankfully, both were wrong and I didn’t listen. If you’ve been given statistical projections or an expiration date, there’s a good chance your well-meaning doctor could be wrong, too.
Once I found a better oncologist for my disease, my entire world opened up. As you may know, I have a weird slow-moving (could get aggressive one day) sarcoma. And though I’m living with cancer, I do it in a healthy, harmonious way. In fact, today I call myself a cancer thriver and I bet that no matter what your personal, medical or emotional pickle is (cancer or something else), you can be a thriver, too.
I would never say that life with cancer is easy, but it can be quite stunning and rich, even in the midst of the pain. These tips have helped me feel better and get stronger along the way. I think they’ll be useful for you or someone you love, too.
11 Tips for Healthy Living with Cancer
1. When the going gets tough, take a really deep breath.
This is the first (and most important) move you can make when the shit hits the fan. There will be endless ideas, advice, theories and even some medical bullying slung your way. Your breath is the gateway to your intuition—it will help you navigate the noise. Breathe and listen. Your breath also has the power to reduce stress (more on that below). When we’re in prolonged fight or flight mode, it’s hard to make decisions and easy to get depressed, anxious and exhausted. Breathe.
2. Find the best oncologist for your disease.
If I had listened to the first doctor, I wouldn’t be here today. Thankfully, I was willing to travel to find the best oncologist for my sarcoma. If you’re newly diagnosed (with any medical issue), I highly suggest you do the same. Your life is in their hands. Do they have experience and access to the latest research? Are they tapped into a network of colleagues who can discuss your case? Your local hospital may not cut it. My oncologist at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute understands all the current traditional treatment options for my disease. I still haven’t had any conventional treatment, but should my disease become aggressive, he’d be my first stop (but not my last).
How to find an oncologist: Start by Googling the top 10 cancer hospitals in the U.S. Also, use the resources below to explore the best oncologist for your specific cancer. In addition to these tips, network! I’ve found the best support by asking my doctor, family and friends.
- National Cancer Institute’s Office of Cancer Centers
- American Society of Clinical Oncology’s Cancer.Net Cancer Specific Resources
- Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA)
3. Your oncologist (or other doctor) probably isn’t enough.
Build an integrative team. Integrative and functional medicine practitioners treat your whole body, not just the symptoms. How do they do that? With dietary recommendations, targeted supplements, IVs, stress management tips and other integrative therapies that improve your overall well-being, including boosting your immune system.
How to find an integrative MD: Check out the directories below. Again, network your butt off. Ask around and interview the prospective healing candidates—that’s right, they work for you.
- Find a Functional Medicine Practitioner
- American College for Advancement in Medicine
- American Association for Naturopathic Physicians
4. Reduce inflammation. Eat plants.
In a nutshell: Embrace gorgeous greens, beans, legumes, nuts, seeds, whole grains, sea veggies, fruits and vegetables galore. Crowd out inflammatory, hormone-filled dairy and other animal products (even organic) by filling your plate with plant-strong, whole foods. And while you’re at it, dump the processed white stuff, especially sugar (it feeds cancer and other bullshit). Speaking of sugar, choose low-glycemic fruits and desserts. If you’re not interested in going full tilt vegan, make plants your main dish and think of everything else as a condiment. If you don’t ditch animal products, reduce your consumption to 2-3 times per week and avoid factory farm products at all costs. For delicious recipes, check out our recipe section at Kriscarr.com, Crazy Sexy Juice and Crazy Sexy Kitchen.
5. Juice your ass off. Not sugary juices.
Avoid store bought processed juices and choose fresh, green, healing juices that you make yourself. Organic is definitely best if you can afford it. If not, check out the Environmental Working Group’s (EWG) Dirty Dozen and Clean Fifteen for guidance on avoiding chemical-laden produce. Without a shadow of a doubt, my daily, low-glycemic green juice practice has allowed me to thrive in spite of my obstacles. My basic juicing rule for patients is a 3:1 ratio—three veggies to one low-glycemic fruit. You can also add lemon, as it has very little sugar. Ginger rocks too. Juices are nutrient dense, hydrating, energizing and medicinal. If you only have a blender, that’s great, too. Make green smoothies instead. Cheers!
Great article! I was happy to share it with a relative who is currently battling cancer. Your article gives hope and encourages others (who aren’t sick – YET) to take care NOW! xx
You are a true inspiration.I am a two and a half year laryngectomy survivor.I
am going to take your advice on diet starting now.Thank You and God Bless
Oooh Kris, a huge congratulations on such an amazing milestone. You are an absolute inspiration! I have just returned home this morning from another treatment, I too am on my own cancer journey, and was feeling quite sick and overwhelmed, I just read your post and my tears have stopped and I am feeling empowered again. Thank you once again for being a shining beacon and a vision of hope to many of us that have been given no hope. Here’s to another wellness infused year. ❤️ Nicole
Kris,
You are amazing and Ialthough just “met” you, I already love you – I love your strength and the message you have for anyone who is facing the scary new world of cancer. I had a more simple form of ovarian cancer when I was 19 – that was 22 years ago and boy could I have used your support then. You are so right about acceptance – to make peace with yourself is to make peace with your whole self, cancer and all. Its been many years for me but as I look back on that scary time I can honestly say (and unless you’ve gone through it) it was an experience I wouldn’t give up – it defined who I was, it gave me strength to care formyself when prior to that I had no voice – I still cherish the memory of watching MTV with my sister as she shaved my head with a pink razor and when I finally said goodbye to each strand. I found myself deep within the shell of how the world viewed me and became the me I am now after all was stripped away and rebuilt.
Thank you so much for being an inspiration to others who need to know that they have a voice within themselves and power to find their own peace in whatever form that may be.
Kris Carr is a Super Rock Star! Thank you for being so open and sharing your life with the world.
Powerful article Kris! And so timely for me… I spent this past Valentine’s day in an oncologist’s office who recommended removing my thyroid for ‘suspicious’ thyroid cancer…this coming 17 years after being diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma in my early 20s. Here we go again?? Thankfully my handsome hubby was there holding my hand throughout all of it, then and now. Your tips are awesome, as is your story – truly an inspiration… thank you!
Hi Kris,
I did not know about your cancer diagnosis before I began subscribing to your blog. I don’t know how I found your blog. Maybe my own personal angel led me to it. Like you, I received a life altering cancer diagnosis in March 2010. My cancer, like yours, is incurable. It is multiple myeloma and when i was diagnosed I already had innumerable tumours in my spine and throughout my body. I opted for conventional treatment – a stem cell transplant and a lot of strong chemo. I was prepared for the worst – but I also hoped for the best.. and here I am today, still alive. Many of the tumours I have are under control and I am in a near complete remission. I do have to stay on a constant chemo regimen but I am lucky that I can take it in pill format. I have been committed to finding food that helps me maintain good health and I guess that is how I stumbled onto your blog. I began following a lot of the recommendations, including juicing, which I LOVE. I didn’t think I would like it but I can’t go without it now. I am also a vegetarian. So thanks to you – I really am trying to make strides with keeping my immune system strong and healthy. Even though I have no scientific proof, I think that eating well can stave off cancer. Even if it does not cure cancer, good food, meditation, and living the life you want can improve the quality of life for cancer patients. Blessings to you for sharing your story.. Hope you had a loving Valentine’s Day.
Debi Sheffield
I am 61 years old and was diagnosed with Stage 3 or 4 (still don’t know) non operable advanced pancreatic cancer 11 months ago and went through 11 rounds of the toughest chemo they give and did (and do) alternative therapies. I am now back to teaching several exercise classes a week and going to Zumba and taking belly dancing. Love your tips!
You are an Angel…you are right on!
And that’s why you are blessed.
I love that you are in this world!
Love and peace to you
Victoria
Woo hoo!! Happy cancerversary gorgeous heart.
You are a true earth angel.
Thank you so very much.
xxxx
Kris you are special and I love you too…:-)
Thank you for this. I have been overwhelmed and negative about my own medical news and this shifted things for me!
You are amazing!
YOU, my friend are truly awesome and amazing!
Cheers
Cheers to cancer remission Kris! Thank you for all you do to inspire and educate. In March of 2008 I was diagnosed with stage 3 Hodgkins Lymphoma. A friend gave me a copy of your first book and I was hooked. I went through chemo, a stem cell transplant in 2009, and then more chemo and radiation in 2010 , all the while integrating clean eating, stress reduction, exercise, etc. Unfortunately my lymphoma is recurring and I’m in the process of consultations etc. I’ve learned that I will have to be okay with being a ‘cancer thriver’ like you, as I will likely be able to keep the disease at bay but not be cured. What you say about acceptance really resonates with me. This disease may always be a part of who I am and I have to be okay with that. It’s given me the courage to leave a job that was physically and mentally draining me for years, and start my own business making natural deodorant ‘Dom’s Deodorant’…thank you from the bottom of my heart for being on this journey ‘with me’!
Thank you Kris for being my very own angel today! I woke up today with your email full of positivity and acceptance, just what I needed. I am a young 40 years old living with congenital myasthenia gravis, and spent yesterday at the doctor hearing about all my limitations present and future…and feeling my heart getting smaller and smaller and my stress levels leaving me sick to my stomach – literally;) Today is the day to rest, renew and replenish, tomorrow i can re-strategize and still make my dreams come true.
Love, Caroline
Just found out I have tonsil cancer and my first appointment with oncology team is tomorrow.
Thanks for these tips…as a Babe in the Woods at 61 years old, these put me at ease a bit.
thanks.
I am so honored to have met you at I Can Do It 2014, San Jose. You were wicked funny and a great “profiler”, if I might say! lol You rendered me speechless with your kindness. I have benefited so much from your information and positive affirmations. I am happy for you that the steps you have found to guide your life have given you peace and gratitude for this crazy journey we call life. Luckily, we all benefit from your sharing as well. Blessings to everyone in your circle!
Susie
I want to say thank you for everything Kris Carr. You’ve been awesome! I also got diagnosed with epithelioid hemangioendothelioma last year at the age of 23 single mom of a 7 year old. Its been a roller coaster ride but all I could say is with lots of faith and a positive attitude it can make anything happen. This is not the end its only the begining! 🙂
Thank you Kris. I lost my mom last year and am still so frustrated with all parts of the experience. knowledge like this can SAVE YOUR LIFE.